Learning to love yourself is the first step to good health.
We compare ourselves to others and set our standards by the standards of others. We pick ourselves apart and put ourselves down. We try so hard to change everything about ourselves, sending messages to the body that it is not acceptable or lovable in its current condition.
What if you stopped fighting yourself and your body, and started loving it instead?
What if, instead of following every fad diet, you chose to eat foods that nourished you?
What if, instead of doing exercises you hated, you chose to move in ways that you enjoyed?
When you embrace where you are now and appreciate your body in its current state, suddenly, it becomes easier to make healthy choices that suit you.
No amount of kale or cardio will improve your relationship with yourself and your body. True health involves inner work, and learning to love yourself is the first step. In my Nourished for Life e-book, I talk about how to end the war with yourself and adopt a more nurturing approach to health and wellness.
How can you be kinder to yourself?
Let’s talk about personal development. We all want to grow, improve ourselves and raise the standards for our lives – and those are admirable goals. I personally work hard to become a better version of myself each and everyday. However, there are two key points to keep in mind:
1. Make sure that whatever you are doing, you are doing it for YOU and not for the approval of others. If you’re constantly seeking the approval of others, you’re wasting your time and energy. People’s opinions of you should not and do not define your self-worth.
2. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We are all a work in progress, and when striving to better yourself and your life, it’s important to know the difference between self-improvement and self-criticism. Striving for more doesn’t mean you can’t be happy with who you are and where you are now.
Be careful with how you talk to yourself. Are you constantly putting yourself down with thoughts like “I’m stupid,” “I’m such a mess up,” or “I’m not good enough?” If so, STOP that negative talk in its tracks. Negative thoughts lead to a negative outlook on life and harsh self criticism leads to a low self-esteem.
Remind yourself that you are worthy, you are good enough, you are accepted and you are loved.
“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” ~ Song of Solomon 4:7
We all have days where we lack motivation. We all have days that we don’t feel like working out. We all have days that we eat foods that aren’t the healthiest, or eat too much. You are human and these things happen. The goal is to not let a bad day turn into a bad week! It’s ok to skip the gym and rest instead, and it’s ok to eat pizza and ice cream once in a while. It’s all about balance. This is a lifestyle. If you made a less-healthy choice recently, make your NEXT choice a healthy one! Take the stairs instead of the elevator, have a salad for lunch, drink water instead of soda. Overtime your healthy habits will form a healthy lifestyle.